Loss of Bladder Control — Dealing with the Leaks
Full disclosure: For this article on the 4 types of Urinary Incontinence, I am participating in a Vibrant Influencer Network campaign for Depend. I am receiving a fee for posting; however, the opinions expressed in this post are my own. I am in no way affiliated with Depend and do not earn a commission or percent of sales.
What is Urinary Incontinence?
When you lose control of your bladder that’s defined as urinary incontinence. Essentially, you can’t always control when you need to urinate. Incontinence occurs if the urine leaves the bladder and urethra without warning. Did you know that approximately 25 million people nationwide are affected? Also, according to Depend, an adult personal incontinence product company, bladder leakage is most common in people over 50 years old, like me. But it can also affect younger people, especially women who have given birth. Men can experience urinary incontinence as well.
What are the 4 types of Urinary Incontinence?
- Stress Incontinence–Loss of urine when you place pressure or ‘stress’ on your bladder. Leakage when you sneeze, cough, laugh, exercise, or lift heavy items. Causes may include: physical changes from childbirth, pregnancy, menopause, being overweight
- Urge Incontinence–Sudden, intense urge to urinate – often followed by involuntary loss of urine. Sudden or frequent emptying of bladder; getting up two or more times per night to urinate. Causes may include: bladder or urinary tract infections, bladder irritants, stroke, neurological diseases such as Parkinson’s or Multiple Sclerosis
- Overflow Incontinence–Frequent or constant dribble of urine. Feeling your bladder is never empty; sometimes only a weak stream of urine. Causes may include: damaged bladder, blocked urethra, diabetes
- Functional Incontinence– Inability to reach bathroom in time. Physical or psychological impairment where you cannot reach the bathroom in time. Causes may include: mobility limitations, pain with movement, medications, arthritis
~Source, DEPEND
A personal story
When I was little, my mom always used to ask all of us before we went anywhere “Did everyone go to the bathroom?” or more explicitly “Did everyone go pee?” It was, to say the very least…annoying, yet quite effective in avoiding accidents.
As I have rounded the corner to the age of 50 and passed it, I began to experience certain accidents during certain situations, especially in situations where I hadn’t emptied my bladder! I could no longer hold my urine in situations of laughing, coughing, or exercise. Yes, I was experiencing occasional leakage. I suffer from stress incontinence as defined above. Now THIS is certainly annoying!
I found that I could no longer travel “lightly”. I had to have a pair of pants/tights/bottoms for everyday and a few just- in-case pairs, as well. Bringing two pairs of underwear for each day of the trip became second nature. Traveling with a carry-on for a week in the winter became very difficult.
A night with my friends, coupled with a bottle of wine and much laughter, must also now include frequent trips to the bathroom because laughter is surely a situation which can lead to me experiencing bladder weakness. I bet many of you can relate to that!
When walking with my husband around our neighborhood, several times I have forgotten my mother’s warning (“Make sure you go to the bathroom”), and had to cut through the woods behind our house to get home quickly. I had leakage issues with each step and it became intolerable to keep walking.
Real People have Bladder Control Issues
Is this hard for me to reveal these VERY PERSONAL details to you? Actually…yes it is. I put off writing this post for some time because quite frankly, I wondered if you would laugh at me or make fun or me. But after visiting the and realizing there are products available to deal with life’s embarrassing situations if my condition worsens, I felt, perhaps, my honesty might help you or someone you love.
I am a real person, I have a real story. Depend brand created to show real people with bladder control issues in a series of inspirational videos.You can hear their stories as they discuss how the discreet fit of Depend Underwear with new Fit-Flex protection helped them to regain a sense of normalcy that helps give them the freedom and confidence they need every day.
Watch this video hear the story of Linda, a pilot:
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Mar Jennings weighs in
Top lifestyle expert Mar Jennings shares one of his bladder control tips:
If you experience bladder control issues, there are products available that provide a discreet and comfortable fit, like Depend Underwear with new Fit-Flex protection, which features more Lycra strands, to help give you the freedom and confidence you need to be active every day.
Watch this video to get a quick look at the Depend Underwear with new Fit-Flex protection to see what Mar is talking about.
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I feel that the new Depend Underwear with new fit-flex protection design fits close to the body without excess bagging. The flex Lycra strands seem like they would enable a more active lifestyles avoiding the crinkle sound and stiff feel that other brands experience. Truly, when I looked at and tried on the product (for review purposes), I felt like it was just underwear with a some extra protection. No big deal. And that’s the point isn’t it? People with the different types of urinary incontinence issues just want to find a product that helps them with their bladder control issues and makes their issues less of a deal!
Would you like to try a Sample?
Would you like to see how the Depend Underwear with new Fit-Flex protection works for your active lifestyle and under your clothes? Perhaps a loved one could use an incontinence product to help them discreetly manage this common condition? Depend wants to challenge men and women to try on their product for a weekend and see how it addresses incontinence issues.



Thank you for posting. I got a sample for a friend.
I had no idea there were different kinds of incontinence. Thanks fort the education!
Very interesting information. I didn’t realize incontinence affected so many people. When I was pregnant, I think I could relate to the Overflow Incontinence. I constantly had to pee and as soon as I was done, I felt like I had to go again. It was quite miserable. Getting up 5 times a night!
Id be so embarrassed to have to wear depends
Thanks for attacking such a personal subject with honesty. I have had occasional problems but nothing I have to deal with on a daily basis so far. I’m glad there’s something out there for people who suffer silently and are too embarrassed to speak up about it.
Thanks for being so gutsy. I think this is relatively common and nothing to be ashamed about. It is just a bodily function, right. Where it gets tough is when it becomes so inconvenient.
I think a lot of people, not just women feel embarrassed talking about bladder incontinence. They feel like it is black and white, but there are all levels of leaks and lack of control. It happens to women of all ages, I have known several MY age (20s) who have had children or female surgeries and struggles with regaining their control- and since bladder control involves muscles, it naturally results in weakness as we age too. I think it is great Depend is opening up such a candid channel for people to connect with.
Ok then. I ordered my free sample.
I have had the stress problem for a couple of years now..not all the time but often enough. It is getting worse too.
Thanks for sharing 🙂 Now I don’t feel so lonesome!
Did I tell you today how glad I am that you read my blog? You are always there so supportive with fun comments and great re-tweets. Many thanks to you Elle/Sherry !!
Awww I got the warm fuzzies 🙂 I love you too!
Which is why I read your blog. I’m glad you are there.
Thanks!
My mother struggled with bladder control. It’s something everyone wants to hide, but it is a real issue. Thanks for sharing your personal story.
I love that you shared this story. My daughter is 8 and deals with leakage frequently. It happens to the best of us…no matter our age.
I suspect this is in my future as my brain disorder is in the part of my brain that controls the bladder. It’s progressive and I’m slowly falling apart. It’s good to know there are good products to help me deal with it when it comes.
I love how modern technology has helped ease our lives in so many ways. No longer are depends these bulky, obvious items. They can now offer the coverage needed while still letting you look chic and adorable. Thanks for sharing. – Katy
Heck, I’m only 43 but have had stress incontinence most of my life (and I have no children) so don’t worry, you are not alone.
thank you for sharing and I know when it is time I will go the Depends route and not feel bad about it!
So not a topic for discussion at the dinner table, but a real problem for so many. Thank you for being open about this issue
I don’t have any bladder issues at this time but I have a feeling that later on in life I may as my father seems to have issues as he gets older. Not sure if its hereditary or not but he’s constantly going to the bathroom. Even on trips he has to stop all the time, I think he knows where every restroom is in NH.
I have experienced this after I turned 50. Just wondering if you have seen a Dr about it? Not sure if I want to wear depends the rest of my life lol!
I’ve often wondered if this is just a natural part of the aging process, or if it has been caused (on my part) from so many pregnancies. Thanks for sharing!
I talk to women about this topic all the time at my job. Unfortunately no one wants to bring it up so I routinely ask about bladder leakage. I’ve discovered that every woman has different tolerance for what she considers an acceptable amount of leakage. Some women just want to know what product will work best for them (thank heavens for Depends) and other want the quickest route to the urologist for surgery. Kudos to you for making it a public discussion!
Sharing your story will help so many. You are brave!! Bravo, my friend! xo